Unhealthy Money Talks: The Cycle
Graphic depicting what Adam Kol, The Couples Financial Coach, calls “Unhealthy Money Talks: The Cycle.” It’s a self-reinforcing process consisting of (in any order): (1) Fight; (2) Hide; (3) Hold it in; and (4) Explode
The graphic above shows the cycle of unhealthy money talks.
Note that it actually doesn’t matter where you start, as it works like a circle.
In which area do you tend to spend the most time or energy?
How can this image help you to understand your financial relationship and resolve money-related conflict?
Keep in mind that the explosion doesn’t have to be loud and aggressive. It could be ice-cold and passive-aggressive. In fact, any of these steps could look any particular type of way for you and your significant other.
The key is to see how this cycle looks and functions within your relationship, and how it stops you two from getting on the same page about money.